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Couples Counselling

Do you feel disconnected and distant from your partner? Like you're far away from them even when you're together, because you just can't seem to get on the same page? Emotional distance, fights, and broken trust leave you wondering how you possibly could've ended up here. At times it feels like shouting into the void "Do I still matter to you!?" If that sounds like you, we're here to offer hope. At Everworth, we help couples get to the root of their disconnection - so that you can walk away truly feeling seen, heard, and meaningfully connected with your person.

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We just can't seem to communicate

This sentiment echoes through many relationships, often serving as the tipping point for seeking couples therapy. Our partner's minds start to feel somewhat of a mystery, there's constant misunderstanding, and we don't feel heard  - like you're speaking different languages, right? We start to think "if we could just communicate better, there wouldn't be an issue".


The truth is, communication skills don't make a difference in a distressed relationship. When we are feeling unloved, uncared for, and disconnected, we rarely have access to those skills - no matter how great we are at communicating in other areas of our lives. 


The solution? We need to get deeper. Instead of just focusing on communication and conflict resolution, we focus on the underlying emotional needs, the ability to connect vulnerably and safely, the fear that you and your partner trigger in one another, and the cycles we get stuck in to protect ourselves from that fear.


The cycles that keep us stuck

Attack/Attack

  • We put the blame on each other to feel temporarily in control
  • We've given up thinking about closeness
  • We try to prove the relationship is bad, but that it's the other person's fault 

Pursue/Withdraw

  • This is the most common cycle 
  • One person finds themselves criticizing, complaining, and seeking change
  • The other person is on the defence, shutting down, and stonewalling
  • The pursuer is worried that they don't matter, and the distancer is worried that they're not enough

Withdraw/Withdraw

  • We're both hesitant to engage emotionally 
  • We may be numbed out to protect ourselves, or burnt out from all the fighting 
  • We find ourselves giving up easily 

When is the right time to start?

There's no specific duration of time that couples need to be together before seeking couples counselling. Couples counselling can be beneficial for partners at any stage of their relationship, whether they've been together for a few months or several years.


Ultimately, the decision to attend couples counselling depends on the willingness of both partners to actively engage in the process and work towards improving their relationship. If you feel that counselling could benefit your relationship, regardless of how long you've been together, it may be worth exploring with your partner.

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Common times couples seek counselling:

Early Relationship Challenges

Early Relationship Challenges

Early Relationship Challenges

Even in the early stages of a relationship, couples may encounter challenges related to communication, trust, or compatibility. Couples counselling can provide tools and strategies to navigate these issues and establish a strong foundation for the relationship.

Pre-Marital Counselling

Early Relationship Challenges

Early Relationship Challenges

Many couples choose to attend pre-marital counselling before tying the knot. Pre-marital counselling can help couples explore important topics such as communication, finances, family dynamics, and conflict resolution to ensure they are on the same page before getting married.

Long-Term Relationships

Early Relationship Challenges

Long-Term Relationships

Couples who have been together for a long time may face challenges such as communication breakdowns, conflicts, or changes in intimacy. Couples counselling can help rejuvenate the relationship, strengthen emotional bonds, and address underlying issues that may be causing distress.

Life Transitions

Recovery from Betrayal

Long-Term Relationships

Major life transitions such as moving in together, starting a family, or retirement can put strain on a relationship. Couples counselling can provide support and guidance during these transitions, helping partners navigate changes and adjust to new roles and responsibilities.

Recovery from Betrayal

Recovery from Betrayal

Recovery from Betrayal

Dealing with infidelity or betrayal can be incredibly challenging for couples. Couples counselling can provide a safe space for partners to process emotions, rebuild trust, and work towards healing the relationship.

Relationship Check Ins

Recovery from Betrayal

Recovery from Betrayal

Couples counselling isn't just for addressing problems; it can also serve as a proactive relationship check-in. By engaging in counselling early on, couples can identify and address potential issues before they escalate, fostering a stronger and more resilient bond over time.

Let's rediscover the warmth and joy in your relationship

If you're reading this, chances are you love your partner but are exhausted and overwhelmed with the way things have been going lately. The way we see it, your relationship isn't failing - you're stuck in a pattern of activating each others fears and ways of protecting from vulnerability. This usually looks a lot like anxiety, placing demands, threatening to leave, starting fights, silent treatment, mentally checking out, or withdrawing (among other things). Everworth's clinicians are skilled at helping you to recognize the underlying needs and worries playing out, and to really truly see each other once more. If the love is still there underneath it all (and we're guessing that it is), we will help you to hear it loud and clear again.


We use a combination of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT), and The Gottman Method to tailor our approach to exactly what your dynamic is needing right now. We're welcoming to couples of all ages, genders, sexual orientations, and relationship styles. We're here to help reignite the foundation of love and safety at the heart of your relationship.


  • You'll have a space to share how your relationship has been going and how it's been impacting you
  • We'll explore your attachment history, including what things were like growing up with your caregivers and in past relationships
  • You'll learn more about the biology of attachment and your own attachment style
  • We'll make sense of how your history has informed how you show up in relationships now, including the ways your brain/body has learned to keep you safe
  • We'll help uncover the needs you have in your relationship, explore how each of your behaviour drives disconnection, and map out the cycles you're stuck in
  • You'll learn how to create a safe base for one another, to attune to each others underlying emotions and fears, and help each other out of the negative cycle
  • You'll both develop skills to be accessible, responsive, and engaged with the other 


Click here to learn more about how Everworth can help with attachment issues.

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Couples Therapists at Everworth

Anhad Kaur, RP (Q)

Couples and individual therapy for adults


Specialties: Couples therapy, Relationship issues, Neurodivergence-affirming therapy, ADHD management, OCD,  Cultural/Spiritual exploration, Racial trauma, Anxiety, Depression


Individual session fee: $140 +HST

Couples session fee: $160 +HST

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I still have questions about couples counselling....

It's recommended to attend couples counselling while in the same room as your partner, to allow the therapist to observe the dynamics between you during the session. However, we know that for so many reasons, this is not always possible. For your convenience, we allow you to join from two separate screens when necessary.


There is absolutely no time requirement for how long you and your partner need to be together to seek couples counselling. Whether you've been together for a few months or several years, couples counselling can be beneficial whenever you feel stuck, disconnected, or are facing recurring issues that you're finding difficult to resolve on your own. If you and your partner are struggling and want to improve your relationship, couples counselling can provide valuable support and guidance regardless of how long you've been together.


Ideally, both partners should attend counselling sessions together to work on their relationship collaboratively. However, in some cases, one partner may be hesitant or unable to participate initially. In such situations, individual counselling sessions may be recommended until both partners are ready to engage in couples therapy together.


It's common for partners to have different goals or expectations for therapy initially. A skilled couples therapist can help facilitate discussions and find common ground between partners. Through open communication and compromise, couples can work together to establish shared goals for therapy.


If you're unsure about whether couples counselling is the right choice for your relationship, consider scheduling an initial consultation with a therapist. This allows you to discuss your concerns, ask questions, and explore whether therapy is a good fit for your needs and goals.


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